Do People Think Before They Say Stuff?
Apr. 5th, 2005 03:09 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
celtprincess13Gah! I had the crappiest.afternoon.EVAR. Precipitated by a throwaway comment in an email that I’m sure wasn’t intended to upset me. Unfortunately, I have one of those brains that just keeps circling around something and not letting it go. Poking at the sore place, as it were.
My cousin mentioned in an email that she had lost fifty pounds on Weight Watchers. And since I know what an accomplishment that is, I congratulated her. And then she wrote back that “it just takes desire and commitment”. Which just set me off, ‘cause you know what? If it ONLY took desire and commitment, then I’d be able to lose the excess weight that I have. Unfortunately, there are other reasons for being heavy than “oh, you’re just lazy”. Did she mean it that way? No, I’m sure not. But it’s that attitude that perpetuates the stereotype that all overweight people must want to be that way deep down, or they’d just change.
I guess I’m touchy about it because when I mentioned it to my doctor, her solution was “well, just eat less and take these diet pills”. Oh yeah, that’ll work. Gee, I never thought of that. Why don’t I just exercise and eat right? Think that’ll work? I did manage to get a referral for an endocrinologist out of her though. I really think that I have PCOS. F-list, anyone have that? I have all the symptoms except infertility and frankly, I’ve never tried to have kids, so I might have that one too. So the endo ordered bloodwork (had to go this am, fasting, was totally dehydrated and they had to stick my hand, of all places!) to see what it says and he says we’ll proceed from there. At least he didn’t just look at me and say “well, do you exercise? Maybe you just eat too much”
Anyway, sorry for the mini-rant, it just got under my skin and I thought maybe if I wrote it down, it’d go away (like plot bunnies, eh?)
My cousin mentioned in an email that she had lost fifty pounds on Weight Watchers. And since I know what an accomplishment that is, I congratulated her. And then she wrote back that “it just takes desire and commitment”. Which just set me off, ‘cause you know what? If it ONLY took desire and commitment, then I’d be able to lose the excess weight that I have. Unfortunately, there are other reasons for being heavy than “oh, you’re just lazy”. Did she mean it that way? No, I’m sure not. But it’s that attitude that perpetuates the stereotype that all overweight people must want to be that way deep down, or they’d just change.
I guess I’m touchy about it because when I mentioned it to my doctor, her solution was “well, just eat less and take these diet pills”. Oh yeah, that’ll work. Gee, I never thought of that. Why don’t I just exercise and eat right? Think that’ll work? I did manage to get a referral for an endocrinologist out of her though. I really think that I have PCOS. F-list, anyone have that? I have all the symptoms except infertility and frankly, I’ve never tried to have kids, so I might have that one too. So the endo ordered bloodwork (had to go this am, fasting, was totally dehydrated and they had to stick my hand, of all places!) to see what it says and he says we’ll proceed from there. At least he didn’t just look at me and say “well, do you exercise? Maybe you just eat too much”
Anyway, sorry for the mini-rant, it just got under my skin and I thought maybe if I wrote it down, it’d go away (like plot bunnies, eh?)
